Brides To Be Top Ten Pre-Wedding Mistakes

Planning a wedding can be one of the most exhilarating, yet stressful times of a woman’s life. Whether you are going extravagant, or just keeping it simple, there are many details that must be addressed, and often, little time to do them. This time constraint is often the source of many common mistakes made by brides before a wedding. Lack of research is another contributing factor. This, however, is often due to the fact that most brides have never planned a wedding before, so the process can prove a bit daunting. Below are the top ten mistakes commonly made by many brides-to-be, and how to avoid them.

Not sticking to your budget. Often times, couples will set a wedding budget, then make further plans without keeping it in mind. This can be a big mistake. While it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement and frenzy of planning a wedding, it is important to follow your budget. Failure to do so can either result in spending more money than what you have, or being disappointed when you can’t pay for something you are set on doing.

Messing up the marriage license. There are a number of rules and regulations surrounding this process that it is easy for couples to make a mistake. Because the bride often plans the wedding, the groom usually takes care of this detail, but it is always something the couple should do together. It is a good idea for the bride-to-be to get involved in this one so both parties know what is needed and when to do it.

Ordering the wedding gown too late. If you have your heart set on a specific gown, you will want to take care of this early on in the planning process. Even if this detail is not as important to you as it is other brides, it is a good idea to have this one taken care of early. Most times, the gown must be altered, sometimes even more than once, so attention should definitely be given to this major detail.

Waiting to book hotel rooms. A common mistake made by many brides is waiting too late to book hotel rooms for wedding guests. This is especially important if you are getting married during a busy time of the year, or would like your guests to stay in a particularly busy hotel. This detail should be taken care of soon after the wedding date is set. It’s much easier to re-book a room in advance than it is to find a room at the last minute.

Inviting too many guests. When choosing a place for the wedding and reception, make sure these sites can accommodate the number of guests you would like to invite. This is crucial because you often take care of this detail well in advance, certainly long before you have received notice of who is and isn’t coming to the wedding.

Indulging in last-minute beauty treatments or crash diets. Getting a facial the day before the wedding can be a bad idea. Instead of rejuvenating your skin, it can actually lead to break-outs, especially if you have never before used the products included in the facial. Because of this, you have no idea what they may or may not do to your skin, so take precautions. The same goes for crash diets. You want your dress to still fit the day of the wedding, and going on a crash diet could result in its being too big.

Failure to understand invitation postage. Many brides are not aware the invitations often require additional postage, therefore, these items are often sent out without it. If this happens, the postal service will return your invitations to you, and you will be responsible for including the proper postage and sending them again. This, of course, can significantly delay the entire process, not to mention add stress to your wedding planning.

Ignoring religious restrictions. Skipping pre-marital classes or failing to wear the appropriate wedding attire can result in your wedding officiate refusing to marry you when the big day arrives. To avoid this, make sure you understand what will be required of you and your husband-to-be prior to the actual wedding. This is especially important if you do not practice the same religion.

Trying it on your own. If you are lucky enough to have been offered help by friends and family members, take it. There are so many details to attend to that it can easily become overwhelming and you may find you will need all the help you can get.

Forgetting to focus on what it all means instead of just the actual event. Yes, the wedding is important, but you should always keep in mind that you are getting married and starting a life together. Brides be good to your grooms and grooms to the same to your brides.

Pre Wedding Rituals in Malayalam Matrimony

Earlier marriage brokers visited houses where the family members were in search of a bride or groom for their son or daughter. During the visit, brokers try to understand the requirements of the girl or the boy and give details of prospective alliances that seem suitable to the parties concerned. But things have changed a lot in the past few years. Marriages are no longer fixed the traditional way these days. There are new ways to search for a bride or a groom.

Placing an advertisement in newspapers is one among them. Matrimonial columns in newspapers help in getting details of prospective brides & grooms. Some people also give advertisements in magazines.

Approaching marriage bureaus and gathering details on good proposals is also common today. There are online sites that do a wonderful service in this regard. Families can register on matrimony websites by giving their details and expectations for the bride or groom to be. One of the advantages of registering on these matrimony sites is one can search for specific requirements by giving search criteria and contact the parties directly.

After collecting a good number of proposals the elders of the family can contact the family members of the boy or girl and invite them to their house. It is generally the boy’s family who visits the girl’s house and convey their interest in going ahead with the marriage. If both the families are interested in the proposal then they start the pre-marriage ceremonies.

The bride’s family visits the groom’s house and fix the date of Nischayam (Malayalam word for engagement) and marriage. When fixing the date of marriage, the auspicious time called the Muhurtham is also decided. Exchanging of garlands and tying of the nuptial knot takes place at the specific Muhurtham time. Most of the families fix Muhurtham after consulting with a Thantri (Malayalee Hindu Priest) or an astrologer.

Matching of horoscopes
Before the Malayalee wedding, the horoscope of bride and groom is checked to determine the compatibility factor. It is done by an astrologer. Many astrological calculations are done and the astrologer conveys the result. Both the families agree to the marriage only if the horoscopes match.

Nischayam or the Engagement ceremony
Before marriage, the engagement ceremony is conducted. This ceremony is conducted at the ancestral house of the bride. It is kind of mini marriage function where close relatives of bride and groom participate. Announcement of marriage date and family details of bride and groom are done during this ceremony. Nischaya thaamboolam or the engagement thali is exchanged by the family of bride and groom and this officially indicates the fixing of the marriage. Some families also have the ring exchange ceremony. After the ceremony traditional feast is arranged at the venue.

Marriage day
On this day, relatives and friends of bride and groom are present at the venue. Garlands are exchanged between bride and groom. The groom ties a “thali” on bride’s neck and this symbolizes the starting of a life time relationship between them as husband and wife. In Hindu marriage tying of the nuptial knot takes place exactly at Muhurtham. According to Hindu philosophy, Muhurtham is considered as the most apt time to start a new relationship.

The newly married couple start a family life.

Wedding Videography – Catching the Bride On That Special Day

Capturing the Bride on Her Special Day

I wanted to discuss the most important day of many women’s lives – her wedding day. It’s that same cliche we hear constantly but it is true, so many women plan this day for years, dream about that perfect day with the dress, the venue, the cake and of course (hopefully!) the perfect groom.

Each wedding is individual and the couple will create a day that reflects their personal tastes and ideas of romance. However whether it is a small intimate ceremony with close friends and family, or a huge celebration with hundreds of guests, there will always be strangers amongst the guests in the form the wedding media. Surrounded by loved ones there are the photographer (and in my case videographer) snuggled away between the guests desperately trying to capture the day. My job as the wedding videographer on paper is quite simple – to film the day and create a video that can be watched time and time again to revive the memories of the day.

There are many reasons why I think a wedding video is important – it can be shown to family and friends who could not present, it provides elements that simply cannot be caught in still photography and can be something very special in times of hardship to hear those vows, see those smiles and revive the memories of that day. I therefore take the job very seriously, and while everyone is laughing, smiling and sipping champagne, I am silently moving around the party like a ghost whispering through the venue to catch that moment. There is always that moment. For example… during the bridal preparations on a recent wedding shoot the aunt of the bride entered the room. I am a small independent film maker but I try to make sure I have enough memory on the CF cards to keep the cameras rolling 90% of the time. After studying documentary as a specialism at university you soon learn that you often catch the best footage when you don’t realise so KEEP THE CAMERAS ROLLING! And then grab one if there is even a hint of something interesting happening. In this case the young brides grandmother had recently passed.

The room was empty except the bride herself and a young bridesmaid whilst the other members of her party prepared themselves in the ornately presented, designated dressing rooms. The aunt handed the bride a very special keepsake, a handmade lace pouch that was made up from small sections of the all the dresses of the previous female family members wedding dresses, started by her grandmother. It was her something old and was attached delicately to her white rose and diamante bouquet. The moment was extremely touching, you really did have to be there, but with eyes welling with tears, mouth bursting wide with smiles and hearts full of loving memories it was a moment that the bride did not realise she would get to see again. However I was there, like a chameleon fading into the background, secretly filming these intimate moments, so that she could forever remember a moment that meant everything to her that morning. How rewarding for me to see her face light up at getting to watch the moments she thought were lost forever. How wonderful that she could enjoy that moment with her aunt, remembering her grandmother on her own in private and then share it afterwards with her family members. How individual is that moment…

Each bride is unique. And lets be honest whilst some grooms are very hands on and some enjoy being in the limelight – it is more often than not the bride who is the star of the show and therefore the wedding video. Each ceremony is special and I always do my best to capture their day perfectly but the ceremony, speeches, cake cutting, first dance tends to run smoothly and on a standard format and there are angles and edits that will always work best. The vows are romantic, tear jerking and beautiful where there is an air of genuine love, happiness and relief that is caught on the camera, in the twinkling of eyes, the twitching of fingers and shaking of hands, and the catch of words through smiles, sobs and singing.

It is easy on video to capture this, to let the emotions pour from the couple and the congregation and let the cameras roll and take it all in. The speeches run traditionally from father of the bride to groom to best men and maid of honour and everyone begins to relax and enjoy themselves. It makes for fabulous, fun shooting. I love being a part of it. However it really is the bridal preparations where I come into my element. This is where you capture that raw emotion pre-vows. My favourite fading end to a bridal preparation video was the bride with her legs shaking, taking deep breaths and holding her face in her hands. Why? Because she had been so nervous all morning. I had spent the morning watching, filming, capturing as her mother and bridal party fussed around her all morning, fixing shoes, tidying hair, draping shiny pearls, tiaras and veils over her while she tried to stop herself from dashing off to the bathroom.

She smiled politely, she went through the motions of her preparation, and then waited… She was quiet, reserved and absolutely stunning in her elegant, sleek white gown. The room emptied and she was left to wait for her father to escort her down to her new groom. Before I dashed down to the cameras set up for the ceremony I stayed, quietly, and just filmed. It was breath-takingly beautiful. My heart slowed, my hands sweated and my eyes found the shots. It was her, I captured her, and the genuine, desperate emotions that poured from her. It was stunning and the transition from her in this nervous, expectant state to her walking down that aisle, to seeing her groom there waiting for her, to him taking her hands and them making that first contact for 24 hours made for the most incredible footage. All that relief flowing like burst river of joy. The love that sparkled and glistened from her was outstanding and whilst I am there, just doing my job, I can’t help but feel that I am lucky to be in the presence of something special.

Weddings, and brides, like this are wonderful. They make editing a pleasure and I genuinely feel like I have created something special myself. It is not always this easy. Sometimes the bridal preparation is hectic. Busy women with hoards of silky materials, flurries of petals and an abundance of hair spray dipping in and out of shot. Being a female producer I do feel that I am in a privileged in being granted access as a woman to some of the more private and intimate preparations. It gives me a massive advantage – and even though I am not myself married – I feel like I can identify with the bride in a way that only another woman can.

I can never guess, in our pre-wedding consultation, what the bride will be like before her wedding. Some of the most confident women crumble and some of the demure brides turn their nerves into a comedy sketch. I love to capture them in the butterfly like transformation from normal to bride. Every videographer will have their own techniques and ideas on how to best film weddings. I enjoy discussing what makes the perfect wedding video. I personally think it is the pre-wedding footage. I have of course the bride – but the groom preparations can be equally emotional and entertaining. Thus far I have not had many opportunities to film the groom pre wedding but hope to in the future. The ceremony is magical, the post wedding celebrations are entertaining. The pre-wedding is genuine, uncensored. I treat it like documentary filming, almost fly-on-the-wall style. I want to see people open up, break down and transform. I let the events unfold in front of me without staging or interaction, I just make sure I am there, capturing it all on video. The whole process is mesmerising. I can not recommend highly enough to brides to be to have this service at the wedding, it is something you will not regret and never forget if you have it captured.

I would love to hear other film makers ideas on the subject as well as brides. I find it fascinating to film weddings; and i didn’t think I would, I thought it would just be a job. It is a much more intimate, and expressive process. I am creating something unique, special and lasting and I absolutely love being a part of each couples wedding day.